I've been working extremely hard recently in making "telling the truth" the most important thing I do in my daily interactions.
I have been writing in my journal for "the universe to give me strength to speak the truth when needed, especially with my close friends and loved ones. For the universe to give me the confidence to be honest for honesty builds confidence." It's conditioning my mind in a cyclical nature.
I've always considered myself to be someone who is honest. As I am further uncovering this meditation, I have realized I could do a lot better.
There are times when I might be telling the truth, yet I am dancing around a few points. Other times I may be diplomatic in my response. I don't like hurting peoples' feelings. If you're any type of reasonable sane person, I bet you're the same. I am beginning to see, however, the power of one's voice.
The truth is paramount in establishing the force that you will be in this world.
The truth builds within your network a feedback loop of growth.
"The thing about the truth is, not a lot of people can handle it." -Conor McGregor
As Jim Rohn put it, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Now consider if those five people are telling the truth or not. If they are and you are staying with them, there are going to be times where the truth looks at the less desirable aspects of your life. With that, you are able to work on those weaknesses and better yourself for the future.
I know, my best friend challenges me all the time with the truth and to work on things that I may not see. When you are able to receive that, you can then give it and create a machine of identifying, sharing, and improving strengths and weaknesses.
You find inner freedom.
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
It may be cliche, however, the truth will set you free. When you speak your mind and engage in discourse that may have consequences, you have no more need of tailoring your day to the whims of others. There are roughly 6.8 billions people on this earth. Theres not a chance in hell you are going to agree with everyone. Why do you keep trying to do so?
You build confidence in the way you act and the things you do.
"Confidence... thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live." -Franklin D. Roosevelt
Sometimes, telling the truth to someone scares the shit out of me. I'm worried about the repercussions. I'm worried that I might lose a friend. I've been worried that it may cause an un bridgeable rift in a love relationship.
All in all, it very well could and the chances are it will. So what? In life, isn't it better to live without a monkey on your back? So you may lose that lover. You will grow confident of the next one that will appreciate the truth. So you may lose a friend. How long were they holding you back?
I don't think we can fully understand the power of the truth unless we live it. I know I have made it the focal point of my social interactions. To speak with more clarity and that I am not mindlessly getting through the conversation.
I box. With that, when I am being coached, my trainer repeats over and over that I need to think about the punches I am throwing. I need to be deliberate with every strike. He wants me to slow down and consider how I am going to move and strike my opponent.
I am applying this to my dialogues with others. The time of speaking just to get through silence is over. No longer can we just speak to be heard. We need to listen and respond back with deliberate strikes.
Sometimes is may hurt the other person.
Sometimes we'll get popped in the face.
Through practice and proper feedback, we will be able to realize our true strength in our voice.